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flemmings ([personal profile] flemmings) wrote2011-11-30 08:21 pm

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(Err, lj, where's the preview button gone to?)

Though I'm not a huge fan of the Riverside series, Ellen Kushner and Delia Sherman seem to be very nice people, and I wish them very well and very happy, which they seem to be anyway. But when I read about their New York jaunts and con-going events, and when Riverside side-stories show up in people's charity auctions, I can't help a small wistful desire that Melissa Scott and Lisa Barnett were doing it too, and blogging about it, and that it was Points gaiden I was bidding on.

Also I r slo. Always wondered about Coindarel's Dragons, that military outfit Philip was attached to at some point, and what it was. Took someone's typo to inform me that that's their version of dragoons.

When I get angry and say things I shouldn't, I never apologize with 'I didn't mean it.' Of course I meant it. I don't have to make up baseless charges when people so generously provide me with solid grounds for dissatisfaction. It takes me a little mental work to believe that some people do say what they don't mean. And I mean, why? Why make up fantastic accusations when, yanno, people provide you with so many grounds for dissatisfaction?
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[identity profile] flemmings.livejournal.com 2011-12-01 05:26 am (UTC)(link)
not everybody has accurate or clear insight into another person enough to do that

It doesn't need insight. Someone constantly coming two or three minutes late when someone else can't leave until the first person shows up will, if I'm angry enough, start me on a rant about their arrogance and rudeness and piss on everybody else-ness. Which has nothing to do with insight into them-- it's what their behaviour looks like to me. When I lose my temper I say what I've always thought, and the only effect I expect it to have (besides the relief of venting) is to piss off the other person, which it does.

Losing one's temper so far that you say anything that comes into your mind... mh, that's so not how we did it at home. (Lawyers, you know.) Especially if the charges are then so weak as to be laughable. Makes the ranter look like an idiot, and surely they must sense that they're coming off as idiots? And either get madder, if mad, or feel squirmily embarrassed if not.