not everybody has accurate or clear insight into another person enough to do that
It doesn't need insight. Someone constantly coming two or three minutes late when someone else can't leave until the first person shows up will, if I'm angry enough, start me on a rant about their arrogance and rudeness and piss on everybody else-ness. Which has nothing to do with insight into them-- it's what their behaviour looks like to me. When I lose my temper I say what I've always thought, and the only effect I expect it to have (besides the relief of venting) is to piss off the other person, which it does.
Losing one's temper so far that you say anything that comes into your mind... mh, that's so not how we did it at home. (Lawyers, you know.) Especially if the charges are then so weak as to be laughable. Makes the ranter look like an idiot, and surely they must sense that they're coming off as idiots? And either get madder, if mad, or feel squirmily embarrassed if not.
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It doesn't need insight. Someone constantly coming two or three minutes late when someone else can't leave until the first person shows up will, if I'm angry enough, start me on a rant about their arrogance and rudeness and piss on everybody else-ness. Which has nothing to do with insight into them-- it's what their behaviour looks like to me. When I lose my temper I say what I've always thought, and the only effect I expect it to have (besides the relief of venting) is to piss off the other person, which it does.
Losing one's temper so far that you say anything that comes into your mind... mh, that's so not how we did it at home. (Lawyers, you know.) Especially if the charges are then so weak as to be laughable. Makes the ranter look like an idiot, and surely they must sense that they're coming off as idiots? And either get madder, if mad, or feel squirmily embarrassed if not.